Funemployed (Fun & Unemployed) is a real thing and I’m here to share my story with others that might have or are going through a similar, what I would call… ‘A quarter life crisis’.
Most people my age (late 20’s) are doing what they need to do in order to be a ‘responsible’ adult, work a full time job or two, pay their bills and have a respected position within the workplace. While to most people this is ‘normal’, I unfortunately am not one of those.
Authoritive figures and ‘rules’ is something that I learnt I don’t do well with and it’s something that I cannot change about myself. Each to their own path. I am the type of person that questions everything, daydreams about what I could or should be doing, and hardly ever do what I’m told. This might sound terrible to most people, and that’s ok, it’s not for you or anyone to decide how to live another persons life. Every job that I’ve had and every person that has walked into my life, I have learnt from and wouldn’t be where I am today if it wasn’t for it.
I started working at the age of 13, doing part time work here and there through pure luck, without letting too many know my age at the time. I grew up with kids older than me as I started school a year earlier. Therefore I started everything else a year earlier as well, including work and partying.
13 years old was also the year I decided I wanted to be a Fashion Designer and that’s exactly what I pursued in studying after high-school. I look back now and wish I first travelled, but I probably wasn’t ready then.
Immediately after studying, I was offered a job doing reception and admin work with a fancy title and a shark for a big boss. I needed the money and legal working experience so I stuck it through, became a zombie, worked night shifts, and had no social life, while trying to sew on the side line and not put my studies to complete rest. I will take away from that, only learning experience.
To this day, I still sew anything and everything to bring in income. I believe one can never have too much experience. I have been turned down at the big fashion houses for (in their opinion) having too much experience or even no experience at all and it always broke me down, when I realised that that’s I am who I am and people will have a perception of you no matter what but I know myself and what I’m capable of doing and not doing. I love learning. I love being busy. I love asking and knowing how to do things so I am capable of doing it myself. There’s nothing that you cannot learn and knowledge literally is power. You can never have too much knowledge. And a little faith always goes a long way…
10 years later, after many jobs and being someone’s ‘ass-licker’, I broke down and didn’t know what to do with my life. I sat behind a desk for 8 hours of my day and had no idea how this actually made me happy.
Get up early. Brush your teeth. Get dressed. Get stuck in traffic. Be late for work. Work for a couple of hours. Deal with office politics. Go home. Have supper. Shit. Shower. Shave. Go back to bed and repeat… How boring. Routine is lethal. How can this be life? There has to be more to life than this. I questioned myself, my God, my existence, my purpose and cried in the car on the way to work each and every morning like a 2 year old.
Until one day it was like the veil had been lifted off of my eyes. You could pay me millions and I would still to this day, not step into a 9-5 corporate or retail environment. It might work for some, and I definitely have gained a lesson in it, but for my spirit, it kills me. I have talents and dreams that God has given me that I am not using. I have been blessed with the dream to travel. Only God knows doing what, but whatever I can do, I will. Hence why I studied teaching (TEFL), to pursue my passion for working with children. I love kids just as much as I love traveling. And I get to teach other people sewing and design through the knowledge I’ve gained through my Fashion Design Diploma. For me, there has to be meaning and purpose behind everything, otherwise what is the point? Pass down knowledge.
Don’t die a copy, when you were born to be an original. – John Mason
‘Funemployed’ was the best way I could define what I was doing when I left the corporate world. I was literally having fun while unemployed. That’s the misconception about life. Yes you need money to survive, but you don’t need money to make you happy. I do what I need to do to get by, just like you. I choose to do it positively, stay humble and grateful, and live with purpose as an individual!
Here’s to the next adventure! (not the boring word: Job) and I wish all of us to be doing what we were created to do.
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